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Where’s Your Confidence? Is It Behind You?

I will admit, I couldn’t figure out what topic to choose this week.

This is not a rant, it is to send a message while remaining humble.

Confidence is something everyone can relate too. The world faces it daily. As a woman, I can say it’s been a battle for quite a long time.

At times, many of us like to put up a front when we have a lot of things going on.

I know I do. It is a habit I’ve grown and learned to master to hide my inner feelings so no one asks what’s wrong. I’ve done this a lot with confidence.

I was a shy girl growing up and it was seen by everyone that I met. For some reason, I let the way people look get the best of me. Ugh like duh girl! No one is the same! But I had to earn that and cherish that as I grew up. Nobody had to encourage me. I figured it out the hard way.

Ya see, society makes it easy to feel some type of way about yourself. There are many models, handsome/sexy/beautiful people that exist and Hollywood makes it known.

It is the job of the parent to convince their child and prove to them that they are everything and more. Confidence comes from within. When that parent isn’t doing their job, the child has to find their way.

Where’s my confidence? It’s in my heart, in my mind and in my……..SMILE! 

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Secret Admirers: When do they become Stalkers?

Did anyone have a Valentine’s Day admirer? Someone you can guess for sure it is them? Did they leave gifts at your job or home? Was it cute/sweet or weird/creepy?

Does it occur every year? What changes?

Aside from V-Day, Do you have one everyday? Or do you do all the hard work?

All these questions are valid for this post! Lol 😀

If you’re anything like me, you’ve had secret admirers in school. Especially elementary school. Those valentine’s day cards always mean something when someone writes a little bit more than the standard greeting. That’s how you know who your secret admirer is. But what happens when it’s not exactly that way?

As you get older, the harder it is to pin point who is sending you flowers on Valentine’s Day, your Birthday, Christmas, Etc. At a college or a university there are so many options that it could be anyone. Unless it’s the girl or guy you had your eye on in class.

Secret Admirers used to be romanticized and a good thing. If a man had one, he would send flowers with a card that had sweet nothings on it. Or he would find what she valued the most and send it. These days, it can be a little weird. Love has gone from in person to online.

In today’s society, it is type stalker-ish! If your number is public like your Facebook profile, anyone can text you.

Or that one guy you met on a dating site now has your number and he turns out not to be so romantic, but you thought he was your secret admirer.

That girl you claimed wasn’t crazy, she actually is! And she follows your every move aside from Instagram. Yikes!

I prefer 90s way of showing affection, compared to 00s. I miss the hand written notes to that someone you found attractive PERSONALITY wise and not sexually. But things have since then changed.


Everyone Facebook messages and uses dating sites to meet people and talk to those they have interest in. Some people hide behind social media and refuse to be brave and show that one guy or girl they are into them. Most people wait until it’s too late.

What is the limit for being a Stalker after getting too close to the person you secretly admirer?


There are many ways to get creative to send your secret admirer gifts. There are e-cards, pen and paper, GIFS, phone calls, text messages, emails, pictures, hell even SNAPCHAT these days! Continue reading