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Get It Girl! Miss PA USA Pageant of 2018!! 

*Updated* Pageant was for 2018! 

The hair. The makeup. The dress. The shoes.
Have you ever wondered if this feels like being crowned prom queen?

Does dress up feel like graduation or better?

I had the luxury of knowing a beautiful contestant of this year’s pageant contest!

She’s been my friend since High school. Can you believe it?! That’s about 15 years if we met Freshman year…can’t really remember lol

She’s also an owner of her very own Notary Public! *Applause* and Attends University of Pittsburgh! She’s doing big things!

I’ve been watching her journey and she’s been so dedicated, it’s a shame she didn’t win!

Does society already know what type of girl they want?

Perhaps so. But let’s not get into politics……

I had the pleasure in asking Ms. Kesselyne Occena a couple of questions, just so you gals and guys can understand the inside scoop of what it’s like being a pageant girl.

Here are the Qs I asked Kesselyne about the pageant:
1. What inspired you to be a contestant ?

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Ayyeee *Dabs* It’s My Blogiversary!


Sooooooo silly me! I have been going through some serious life changes and been too tired to blog.

Until I decided to stop being lazy today!!!

And it just so happens to be my blogiversary!!

Que balloons*


(Thank you giphy)

I started this blog in 2015 so it can motivate me to stay active in my writing and get back into writing these books I keep claiming I am working on, yet I don’t have the time because work or some other life event I feel gets in my way.

Over time I have made such beautiful friends and read some amazing blogs!

I have lost touch with a lot of my favorite blogs because I have been so busy with life! Ugh! I made a promise to myself to get back into gear and catch up with my reader on WP of those that I adore and NEW followers as well!


I LOVE writing! It is apart of me. Always has been from when I was a kid.

Now, I will give credit for this post to my girl …

Authenticitee Speaks

for her blogiversary post!! Here is her post- “On My Word* Celebrating 3 Years of Blogging” Her post made me think about how I NEVER wrote a celebratory post of my own!

She is one of my FAV bloggers! Not only does she keep it real, especially about her love for her family but her poems are so dope! Check my girl out! 😉

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Friendship Denied!!

Ever feel deep down inside that everything around you is changing and you don’t know if it is a good thing or bad thing?


Something major was coming, yet you couldn’t put your finger on it……


Or eerily that you have a convo with someone that states being different to people in the new year and it seems like one of you might just be pulling the plug on the other without realizing it?

Also you had this same conversation with a previous friend who most definitely blocked you.

Well MY answer is YES!

I just experienced all of that.

I feel like this one friend was waiting for me to say something to her or waiting for the right moment to choose not to be friends with me….

And it was I that set it off…. Continue reading

1,000 Likes!!! 1,000 More!!!


Been waiting for this moment!

Thank you!!

Even tho I’ve been slackin in 2016, when my blog was lit in 2015…I’m soooo grateful for all my readers!!

Thank you for sticking by me all this time and thanks to my new followers! 

1,000 likes is another great milestone.

Keep those likes coming!!




As always I’m interested what’s your favorite blog posts?? What more would u like to see? 

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Come on Barbie Let’s Go Party!!!

I have another thrilling post for you gals! Sorry boys, this one may not be for you :P. (Or maybe it is?)

The blonde haired, blue eyed figure. 

She came as an athlete, a mother, a sister, a well known driver, pilot, doctor, dentist, hair stylist, housewife, replica of celebrities or collectibles and more if you will….

She was slim.

She was tall. 

She had curly hair, straight hair, long hair, thin hair. 

She had pink lips. 

She had the best fashion.

She ensured happiness to all little girls. 

Never letting them down. 

Inspired girls to want to look like her. 

Hell, adults had surgery to look like her and her boyfriend.

Ahh the boyfriend. Strong, chiseled. Light skin like she.

Blues eyes as she. Either fuzzy brown hair or blonde.

That’s right gals! I am talking about Barbie and Ken!!!!

Mostly Barbie in this post though!


*Ahem* Sorry childhood moment.

I miss my Barbies. I used to play with her all the time. Every weekend before I had any real friends, you could find me home creating stories for Barbies.

Maybe that is where my niche for writing came from. Hmmm….

My older brother even played with me.

It was fun.

I would make them go to college, high school, junior high…it varied upon age. I had a Volkswagen too…I really wanted that! Nothing else mattered for Christmas that day but that car for my dolls. Ahh, I miss it. 

Don’t you remember when they only cost $15 to $20?! Not $50 to $60!! That’s why I had sooo many! She was affordable. In 1960 she was only about $5. The jealousy! Lol

By 2000, she dumped Ken. Did the dolls teach girls to rely on a man? Perhaps it did if Barbie wasn’t single for a long time.  

I had all sorts of Barbies, Skipper, Theresa, Ken, Stacey, Kelly, and Tommy. Continue reading

I Wish I Were A Kid Again!

Ever sing the Toys “R” Us jingle when it came on TV?

“I don’t wanna grow up, I’m a Toys “R” Us kid”


I used to be that kid singing it as if I really could be a kid.

But now I am 26 and all I keep wanting to do is:


At life’s toughest choices. Being an adult is soooo hard! You have to take on many responsibilities such as paying your own bills and having a real job.

Then if you can’t find a job, it is even HARDER to find one.

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How Can You Think in a Generation of Social Media!?

It is hard growing up in a fast advancing generation when you grew up in a world that was slow. I’m talking about the childhood where you went outside and socialized with your so called friends.

I remember when I was in my early years, I was always outside. I learned how to ride a bike, how to roller skate, how to play tag, Red light-green light-one two three, Red Rover, and many more fun games.

As I moved to a new neighborhood by the age of 13, I met new friends. I played the same games but I also learned to just sit on the stoop and get to know these “friends” a little better.

As girls, we would play double dutch.

As one of the boys, we sit and chill on the stoop and talk about nothing.

I was a tomboy. I never really hung out with girls.

I dressed like one of course (a girl that is), but just didn’t really like hanging with girls.

Girls are the shadiest of all.

But anywho….

Yeah I had a cellphone at the age of 13. But I only texted one friend.

When I started High School, I became more in tune with myself. I learned a few things about myself along the way. I learned how to make more friends.

I learned how to separate my school friends from my around my hood friends.

They never clashed.

I had an AOL account. I used AIM, Myspace, and Sconex.

AIM was cool because I got to talk to friends instantly….helloooo instant message! Continue reading

How Bad is it to be Surrounded by Evil?

When you are a child, no one instills in your brain how evil is among us.

It is kind of in music, whether you listen to it backwards, forward, it still has a hidden message.

Evil is in family. They smile in your face, love you and adore you until they can release you and betray you.

If your family is dysfunctional like mine, that definitely happens.

Family leaves you in the dark, giving you false hope of what family really means.

When you are down, they won’t pick you up.

It is within some friends.

It hides behind their faces…

A mask that is well worn. They take it off at night and call the closest person they can to reveal their evilness…. Continue reading

Pokemon No!

I am laying it on the table ladies and gents….

I am Sick of Pokemon Go. It isn’t the same as the cartridges for GameBoy. Who thought so? Raise a Hand.


I used to play the game and have the same mantra as on the left. That part of the game always had me scared one was going to pop up. The picture on the right is everyone in 2016. My cousin was driving us around the city one day and she gets exactly like that.

To me it is just another distraction for the world. 

Forget about Trump attempting to become president because you have Pokemon Go.  Continue reading

Hello Friends!

It has been some time….I took an unnecessary vacation. But in the upcoming posts, you will see what I have been up to in the meantime. I know, I suck at this coming back and staying around thing, but hey I am working on commitment okay! Literally, for WP and in my life outside of the internet…..

I have been through a lot….most of which is too private for your eyes because it is a touching subject and hard when many voices will disagree sooo I will keep that one to myself but I will describe it in a way that will probably be open to the eyes of the understanding. Confusing? Wait for it and you’ll know what I mean.

Tonight, I realized I need to focus on the things I lost touch on before I give up on my dreams entirely…

In life I want to be an author sitting at Barnes and Noble all over the globe having people ask for my autograph. However, I will never get there if I don’t write all the stories I left behind in my mind and in a file on my computer because life keeps slapping me in the face.

WordPress was my open gate in 2015 to get to that driven part of me that was going to continue one of the 3 books I have started. But 2015 and 2016 have failed me in which I have come to realize I am halfway through yet another year and have not done that one goal. I let things take over me and stress me out to the point where I forget about that little peace of hope and freedom in my mind that makes me write for hours!!

For Christ sake I had over 50 diaries as a child!! I wrote in plain old notebooks by the way! Wrote out my life as if someone was going to read them besides me. How embarrassing the stories were when I actually read them at maybe 21, but I threw them all out because I became a brand new person.

I am still figuring myself out, but I can say I did a lot better than I did at 14. I think I am finally at a place in my life where I can write those stories, even if it takes a year a piece. I enjoyed making my own stories as much as I do creating a blog that probably no one is going to read every day. It’s okay, I know I talk to myself on this thing a lot :P.

I put WordPress on my resume simply because it is apart of me. I told myself I will create this and at some point this was my baby. I posted every Sunday and Thursday as if I was getting paid to do so. Then life happened and I got lost in reality. I will try to maintain this site like I used to. I have to. If not for me, but for you. I realized that my voice speaks to people and I never would have guessed that if I didn’t start off here.

I enjoy when people read what I write. I just have to remember that even when I write my books. I hope one day my WordPress friends will see Shade But No Shade bigger than what it is and will come to Shade’s autograph signings although I don’t have a pen name as an author yet and I don’t know if I ever will. I like my original name, but it is also common. I want a name that stands out, not blends in. My favorite author Zane has a pen name…it’s Zane. She created an identity, just like my other author Cairo. I want…no need a name like theirs where I can be talked about and others not know who I am but want to find out……

How’s that for an epiphany? A revelation? Growing up?

Whatever it is….I like that I am figuring it out along the way.

New things are coming to this blog including more topics, some drawings which I find thing off the internet and draw for fun, movie reviews and more.

I am going to try this again as well……anything you like for me to touch on? Hit me up!

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