Stop Crying!! Go Have Fun!

*Whoops late post as I have been a busy gal!

You may remember my post on Dumping the EX which you can read below!

https://shadebutnoshade.wordpress.com/2015/05/17/leave-that-ex-in-the-trash-bin/#more-682

This post is specifically about the actions of being the dumpee, not the dumper.

As usual I think of things all the time as I travel. As well as in conversations with friends and more. A friend of mine recently has been going through it with her boyfriend and she is nonchalant. It’s probably random for others, but for me I have seen it before. Sometimes you don’t need the pity party.

How come there is that instant sympathetic feel you get from friends when you tell them you dumped someone or has been dumped? They want to take you out and do all sorts of things to make up for it.

We Conform to society too much and it is time to stand up! 

The dumper may or may not have a harder time than you moving on. But if they dumped you, usually they don’t need the healing party.

Is this just a girl thing? I always wanted to know that so I am asking today. 

Stick around, it gets pretty funny. 😀

You automatically get judged for what happened in your previous relationship.
“Girl what did you do?”
If that’s not you, then you hear, “it’s about time.”
“What he do. Did he cheat?”
But my favorite is “Are you ok?”
Should I wallow in my sorrows over what just happened?
I deserve to sit and cry while he’s looking for the next step into…..

No Thanks.

I am almost sure the older you get, the less you care about breakups unless you seriously loved the other person.

Hear me out.

When I was younger, (yes I feel old at a quarter of a century ok?! Haha)
I thought I was in the best of relationships.
I was in love a few times….”puppy love”

Leave That EX in the Trash Bin!

So my recent post on Boyfriends was more like an introductory post right?

At least that’s what I should call it.

Remember those irreplaceable guys?

Well you wanna know what grinds my gears?

What ticks me off?

What makes my eye twitch? (Okay, maybe not exactly this one but it does make me that mad haha)

When an exes feels the nerves all in his balls or cahonas and decides to downplay you when you shut them down. Like byeeee boy!

Their instant message on FB or Twitter or even IG reminds you of all the bad times you’ve had with them.

You know a relationship was toxic if there was hardly any good.

Especially the exes that only expressed the negatives of a relationship. It’s one of those things that throws me for a loop. How dare you only mention the bad and not the good?

Thus comes the exes that want to slide in your brain and hope you will remember them for one more night of loving.

Kick them to the curb!

I used to receive the messages from a couple exes that played me and ended up getting played themselves. It felt more like harassment so I told my current BF to tell them to leave me alone.

Ever since my hero stepped up, the villains never returned.

When they lose a good thing, they try to always get it back.

I do believe in second chances, but if I feel like it won’t be worth the time or it’s passed your second chance, then you can keep sailing buddy because there are more fish in the sea willing to deal with your hoe-ism of a lifestyle!