Oooh I Like It When You Touch Me There!

Ahh this touchy subject….literally…

The time you lost your virginity. When everything was confusing.

The feeling was amazing….

The feeling was painful….

When girls spiel “I love you” for no damn reason…

When guys can’t handle her spiel…

The awkwardness and wondering when it will stop being awkward….

When a girl runs and shares wit her homegirls all the details…

When a boy fronts and tells his boys half the truth about it…

That’s right ladies and gents this post is all about SEX!

Queue song!

 

Okay no seriously….I remember my first time. It was fun when I was in the moment, but looking back at it I wish I waited a little longer. Don’t you hate that? When you almost regret something because your mind wasn’t mature enough to make the right decision….

Yeah sooo sadly I grew up in a home where the birds and the bees was not discussed. My dad passed away when I was 3, so all I had was my mom. She has been in and out of relationships trying to figure out her own life that she couldn’t even teach me or my brother the ropes of sex. My brother might have learned from friends or my uncle(s), or maybe even figured it out on his own. I on the other hand had to ride solo….

I was unfortunately 14 years old when I lost my virginity. Yikes. Yeah I know. Silly me. But that is the type of freedom I had. 

You Need To Get It Together!!!

So my lovely ladies and gentleman….

I am back with another scenario of double standards!! One of my favorite posts was a loonnggg time ago when I wrote it and I wrote it so well, I am shocked it came out the way it did.

If you would love a refresh or you are new to my page and don’t have time to scroll to it, I’ll drop it right here! This is one of my favorite posts.

Welcomeeee back to another post about Double Standards!!!

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Okay so you know most of what I write is based on my life but that’s okay because what else would I talk about? 😀

So today’s topic is about: Flirting, Compliments, Workplace and more

I will start with compliments. When a girl compliments a guy, in some cases that’s okay but if she is in a relationship it can cause problems!

When a guy compliments a girl, it is supposed to be totally okay….relationship or not right? Cause that is how I see it.

When a girl receives a compliment, she feels either 2 ways; One… happy but not enough to be like babe it’s over and Two she may not take the compliment! It might disgust her. If she tells her bf if she has one, he blows it out of proportion…

When a guy receives a compliment, his ego is through the roof. He even wants to share the news with his gf sometimes and what?? Expects her not to be jealous?

You Don’t Need Bail Money For This!

If you haven’t guessed it, I’m talking about when ya homie/ya sister/ya brother/ya cousin/ya best friend/ya significant other BAILS ON YOU! That’s right. They put you in the holding cell because either they double booked you or they just didn’t know how to tell you no. Who knows, maybe they did have plans to chill/hang with you but something better came along.

Whatever the case is, you’ve become all too familiar with it. You know how it makes you feel. It’s probably just like how it makes me feel. When this happened to me before, I was a little disappointed.

A friend could always use a good talk with some drinks (innocent or not) as well as a good movie and dinner. But as I grew up (and still growing might I add!) I realized that there is no need to feel emotion towards being stood up because when the time comes when they need me, I probably won’t be here.

Especially when they bail just to stay home and be on Facebook! The nerve!

Then there are the friends that drive around the “no you can’t come sign” or beat around the bush when trying to avoid you. If it’s not you, then it’s your friend that they don’t like. So they try to manipulate you as you are their great friend into uninviting your plus one! This is a straight up, no questions asked NO-NO! It’s rude and will make your friend ponder about the friendship you really have.

Double Standards…Why do we have them?

We’ve all experienced it, at any age. It’s frustrating and annoying.

You find yourself having this battle with just about anyone of the opposite sex.

A man does it with a woman and a woman does it with a man.

No matter what is being said a man feels like he is always right…..maybe a man coined the term double standard too? Since they like living it so much!

Lol seriously though. I can’t even begin to tell you the many times I’ve been in arguments such as

Man: She slept with the homie, she’s a hoe, slut, thot, etc

Me: And guys do it too! They are thots and sluts too.

Man: Chill that’s not the same thing. We don’t get called those names…or we do it different

……I could continue but you get the point. Men don’t get called the names they created for women because they want to be dominant but GUYS LISTEN UP! You are those names too if you proceed with the same actions. #JustSaying

I DON’T understand how most people can be one sided on certain situations. If it hurts you to be called a name, then don’t call anyone else it! Simple!

Double Standards come in many shapes, styles and forms.

In relationships, there should be no need because the two of you become one. However, it cannot be stopped unless society stops it altogether so it continues! It shouldn’t happen at all!

Here’s a tip!

For example, SEX numbers…lalala everyone’s favorite discussion. It is debated on social media, on TV shows like Guy Code, amongst friends, etc

In relationships only you two can decide whether or not you care about how many people the other slept with! It’s your boyfriend/girlfriend. Don’t try to add numbers by 2 or 12 because not every woman lies like that and neither does guys.

Does it really matter? You sleep with them anyway!

Next……Dating sites.

If you create one and you’re single, then cool.

If you create one and you’re working things out with someone or you are considering it, well then how do you think you look? How can he/she take you seriously when you are doing the opposite!

Then he/she gets an online dating site too and you catch a ‘tude about it?