Secret Admirers: When do they become Stalkers?

Did anyone have a Valentine’s Day admirer? Someone you can guess for sure it is them? Did they leave gifts at your job or home? Was it cute/sweet or weird/creepy?

Does it occur every year? What changes?

Aside from V-Day, Do you have one everyday? Or do you do all the hard work?

All these questions are valid for this post! Lol 😀

If you’re anything like me, you’ve had secret admirers in school. Especially elementary school. Those valentine’s day cards always mean something when someone writes a little bit more than the standard greeting. That’s how you know who your secret admirer is. But what happens when it’s not exactly that way?

As you get older, the harder it is to pin point who is sending you flowers on Valentine’s Day, your Birthday, Christmas, Etc. At a college or a university there are so many options that it could be anyone. Unless it’s the girl or guy you had your eye on in class.

Secret Admirers used to be romanticized and a good thing. If a man had one, he would send flowers with a card that had sweet nothings on it. Or he would find what she valued the most and send it. These days, it can be a little weird. Love has gone from in person to online.

In today’s society, it is type stalker-ish! If your number is public like your Facebook profile, anyone can text you.

Or that one guy you met on a dating site now has your number and he turns out not to be so romantic, but you thought he was your secret admirer.

That girl you claimed wasn’t crazy, she actually is! And she follows your every move aside from Instagram. Yikes!

I prefer 90s way of showing affection, compared to 00s. I miss the hand written notes to that someone you found attractive PERSONALITY wise and not sexually. But things have since then changed.

Everyone Facebook messages and uses dating sites to meet people and talk to those they have interest in. Some people hide behind social media and refuse to be brave and show that one guy or girl they are into them. Most people wait until it’s too late.

What is the limit for being a Stalker after getting too close to the person you secretly admirer?

There are many ways to get creative to send your secret admirer gifts. There are e-cards, pen and paper, GIFS, phone calls, text messages, emails, pictures, hell even SNAPCHAT these days!

What Is Going On With These Dating Sites?!!!

So I know I recently mentioned the double standard of the usage for dating sites. This time is different. I have experienced something I think you’ll get a kick out of.

I recently joined OK Cupid to prove a point to a friend. On OK Cupid, the more questions you answer, the better matches you will get. If you hardly answer any, does that mean you won’t find your perfect match? It’s a strange thing to consider, but true nonetheless. I don’t have time to play guessing games with a website! One tip, I neverrrrr give out my real name on the site! It’s not something I do. For what? So you can creep on me? You good!

It’s one of those situations where they don’t see what you mean until you show them what you mean.

So it’s no doubt that I am attractive. NO I’m not conceited, I just learned to appreciate that I am pretty to some degree.

I’m a Girl, I’m a Woman, so yes I have insecurities too! It took A LONG time to tell myself that I am pretty but back to this….. 😛

I came across some negative inbox messages that I just rolled my eyes to and didn’t respond to. To others, I also laughed depending on what was being said.

Now don’t get me wrong, before I shut this down with the negativity of the site, there were some nice guys on there that have messaged me respectfully, I just don’t respond to all of them.

It amazes me how there are all these men on the site and not one thinks to be a gentlemen to get the woman they want in their life or even the casual sex! Sometimes it’s best to be NICE and HONEST at the same time!

When you come off too ignorant or too rude, a woman doesn’t want to respond to that. Men, you must have some male figures in your life that can educate you on the thoughts of women! OR Watch Guy Code every Weds at 11:30PM! 😀

I don’t know about all women, as I can only speak for myself and the female friends I do have, but I know that if you come off as a prude when you greeting a woman, chances are you WILL NOT get what you expect.

To interest you in a few of the ridiculous messages I’ve received, I’ll share the top 4 because everyone else was blocked. These are my most recent posts.

Oh yeah, I only had the site up for ONE week now.

Example #1: This came in last week….

 I read this message like Dude Gross! Do something with yourself! He cannot and will not EVER have me! What was his thought process when he sent this message? I don’t get it. He was blocked instantly, without hesitation. I just can’t!

Example #2: This was just this past Thurs!

This one just made my skin crawl for many reasons. What possessed this dude to assume that I would go with him on a private jet like I know him????? This opener for women is NOT the wave homeboy! I just shook my head at his one because it was very aggravating to see this. I know I look 15, but I’m not and I don’t act like it!