Oooh I Like It When You Touch Me There!

Ahh this touchy subject….literally…

The time you lost your virginity. When everything was confusing.

The feeling was amazing….

The feeling was painful….

When girls spiel “I love you” for no damn reason…

When guys can’t handle her spiel…

The awkwardness and wondering when it will stop being awkward….

When a girl runs and shares wit her homegirls all the details…

When a boy fronts and tells his boys half the truth about it…

That’s right ladies and gents this post is all about SEX!

Queue song!

 

Okay no seriously….I remember my first time. It was fun when I was in the moment, but looking back at it I wish I waited a little longer. Don’t you hate that? When you almost regret something because your mind wasn’t mature enough to make the right decision….

Yeah sooo sadly I grew up in a home where the birds and the bees was not discussed. My dad passed away when I was 3, so all I had was my mom. She has been in and out of relationships trying to figure out her own life that she couldn’t even teach me or my brother the ropes of sex. My brother might have learned from friends or my uncle(s), or maybe even figured it out on his own. I on the other hand had to ride solo….

I was unfortunately 14 years old when I lost my virginity. Yikes. Yeah I know. Silly me. But that is the type of freedom I had. 

Don’t Judge Me!!……I’m Only Human…

Why do you look at me that way? Is it something I said?

NO.

It’s society. It throws everything at everybody and expects the most viral expectations.

I’m talking about LOOKS.

The what you looking at “looks”

The she got the job because she’s hot “looks”

The he got a nose job because he thought the original was ugly “looks”

Anything that’s possible that makes you wonder is it because of how you LOOK!

A person too shallow loves to focus on “looks” #NoShade

Celebrities make you want to stop eating greasy food and start a healthy regime because they display their bodies as if it were a masterpiece. You head to the gym with the goal to look like Amber Rose or Tyra Banks.

It dates so far back that it could have started anywhere. As our generation develops, I would like to think it started as kids.

Some of us have been bullied (I am one of them, happened like 2 times) and it occurs because a person is nerdy or too quiet. To say one is “nerdy” is to base it off of the way they dress differently from you or they wear glasses.

#NoBullying guys and girls.

Society shows us that if you are not sexy, hot, pretty, etc then you can’t make it in the world.

Kuddos to the successful people out there changing the world like Chantelle Brown-Young aka Winnie Harlow. She is currently a model, mentor and more under Desigual designer label.

Secret Admirers: When do they become Stalkers?

Did anyone have a Valentine’s Day admirer? Someone you can guess for sure it is them? Did they leave gifts at your job or home? Was it cute/sweet or weird/creepy?

Does it occur every year? What changes?

Aside from V-Day, Do you have one everyday? Or do you do all the hard work?

All these questions are valid for this post! Lol 😀

If you’re anything like me, you’ve had secret admirers in school. Especially elementary school. Those valentine’s day cards always mean something when someone writes a little bit more than the standard greeting. That’s how you know who your secret admirer is. But what happens when it’s not exactly that way?

As you get older, the harder it is to pin point who is sending you flowers on Valentine’s Day, your Birthday, Christmas, Etc. At a college or a university there are so many options that it could be anyone. Unless it’s the girl or guy you had your eye on in class.

Secret Admirers used to be romanticized and a good thing. If a man had one, he would send flowers with a card that had sweet nothings on it. Or he would find what she valued the most and send it. These days, it can be a little weird. Love has gone from in person to online.

In today’s society, it is type stalker-ish! If your number is public like your Facebook profile, anyone can text you.

Or that one guy you met on a dating site now has your number and he turns out not to be so romantic, but you thought he was your secret admirer.

That girl you claimed wasn’t crazy, she actually is! And she follows your every move aside from Instagram. Yikes!

I prefer 90s way of showing affection, compared to 00s. I miss the hand written notes to that someone you found attractive PERSONALITY wise and not sexually. But things have since then changed.

Everyone Facebook messages and uses dating sites to meet people and talk to those they have interest in. Some people hide behind social media and refuse to be brave and show that one guy or girl they are into them. Most people wait until it’s too late.

What is the limit for being a Stalker after getting too close to the person you secretly admirer?

There are many ways to get creative to send your secret admirer gifts. There are e-cards, pen and paper, GIFS, phone calls, text messages, emails, pictures, hell even SNAPCHAT these days!