Self-centered people Urk my Nerves!

© Eliza Rose

© Shade But No Shade 2022

I hate people that talk about themselves all the time and leave no room for you to speak

How bout the people that think it is ALLLLL about them!? You know the people that you can’t give advice to, the people that want you to hear all their problems and none of yours?

I know my readers are like yaassss

The self-centered people who will blow you up when they want to talk to you

But when you want to talk to them, all of a sudden, they are busy?

The kinds of people that take a simple comment you state and change it to benefit their favor….

Let’s see if I can add some more along the way….

I have lost some friends who were very selfish and idk why I was their friends.

You live and you learn.

I have some current people close to me that act just like I mentioned and sometimes it is a little annoying especially when it is two people in one day.

Sure, I’ll listen to your melodrama and give random feedback, but I know you gonna do what you want anyway.

I can’t talk about the life I want and not set to achieve it.

I am currently working through that myself!! So I know what I am sayin.

But I know people who say things like they want a family and a bf or a husband but yet they do the opposite of what could get them that goal.

I know people who want to buy a house and splurge their money like they don’t.

I mean come on! I know I am not the only one!

Okay back to the topic….

People who make situations about themselves or phone calls are a bore….

And if you have my personality (Gemini) you start to dodge people and sometimes without them knowing why.

You not gonna pick up that frequent phone call, but shoot ’em a text within the half hour.

You may not call them at all but just text them.

Why? Because it is BORINGGGG to hear them talk about themselves for an hour, if given that long.

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Is This the Toughest Season?!

Why is it that when tax season comes around, it seems a bit stressful?

Lord!

Especially when your mind is as crowded or clouded I should say as mine!

I swear I am only 27 yrs old and I experienced enough stress to last me to 80!!!

My brain is constantly frazzled and fried and I can’t remember daily tasks!

WTF!

Anywho….

I can’t seem to remember if I kept my w2 from last year or chucked it in spirit of I didn’t need it anymore!

We moved in Nov so I was cleaning all my old paperwork before we moved….

Apart of me feels like I chucked it (and regrets it currently)

and then I also feel like I hid it.

Confusing right? 

Are You Too Good To Be Mentioned?!

Who gave men the disciplinal right to try to demand certain things from women???

From “curfews” to budgeting (but you can’t tell them to budget their own money oh no), to cooking & cleaning to many more but my most recent fav….

Telling you NOT to blog about them!!!

Especially when they don’t even READ your blog!!

 

About a month ago I subbed this gov lady in my post cuz her man was pretending to be my man and she “so called researched” and found my blog as a connection to him. Hmm how? If his name isn’t tagged in my posts and the only way you do that is if you have his first and last name which you must have got from ya fake lyin’ ass man and searched fb to get to me as well…… My man found out cuz it was his best friend’s brother…his bestie was talkin’ so much shit about my blog and his ass don’t read it either!

Long story short, my bf was all “don’t talk about me”

Get It Girl! Miss PA USA Pageant of 2018!!

*Updated* Pageant was for 2018! 

The hair. The makeup. The dress. The shoes.
Have you ever wondered if this feels like being crowned prom queen?

Does dress up feel like graduation or better?

I had the luxury of knowing a beautiful contestant of this year’s pageant contest!

She’s been my friend since High school. Can you believe it?! That’s about 15 years if we met Freshman year…can’t really remember lol

She’s also an owner of her very own Notary Public! *Applause* and Attends University of Pittsburgh! She’s doing big things!

I’ve been watching her journey and she’s been so dedicated, it’s a shame she didn’t win!

Does society already know what type of girl they want?

Perhaps so. But let’s not get into politics……

I had the pleasure in asking Ms. Kesselyne Occena a couple of questions, just so you gals and guys can understand the inside scoop of what it’s like being a pageant girl.

Here are the Qs I asked Kesselyne about the pageant:
1. What inspired you to be a contestant ?

If You Want Certain Privileges…..Where The Ring At?!!

When is there a time to be home when u ARE NOT MARRIED?

11PM?

12AM?

Men seem to always want to tell women when to be home and when to do other things BUT when it comes to them, they want freedom to do as they please?!!

GTFOH!

For those that don’t know the abbreviation, it’s Get The Fuck Outta Here!

They call being home at 11pm a safety reason.

IS IT??

So then you should be home too.

When I used to go out with my friends I would come home at 1am from the bars.

I was never too drunk to get home.

But back to the matter at hand…..

Where’s my ring?

2nd man that wants marriage privileges but no ring.

Damn! It’s Just A Co-Worker!

When is it never acceptable to talk to co workers??!!

Oooooo I love a good rant and I think I am overdue for one!

Ladies and Gentleman,

Why is it that people always feel a type of way about having co-workers as friends?

It becomes either a stereotype or some male’s way of thinking because they are insecure.

I been dating bae for 2 and a half years and we had many disagreements about being friends with co-workers.

Just because he is anti-social, does that mean I have to be???

NO!!!

Who died and made him GOD?

Sorry, No one.

And I ask him this all the time especially in arguments.

Because no one has the right to tell someone to do something and expect it to get done cuz they like things a certain way.

Anywho…..

I think it’s not a big deal to be cordial with co-workers.

Hell! Sometimes you can make best friends out of co-workers!!! 

The Thirst is Real!!

So let me tell y’all….

I’ve experienced my fair share of women testing my patience when it comes to my relationship.

There was one scenario about 3 months ago that I had to hold everything within me to stay mature!

Remember how I told y’a’ll that I am not ratchet? So yeah I had to keep that up for the moment and assess the situation before I became a different person….

Anyways let me rant to you!

My babe and I went to Friday’s as we always do before seeing a movie at the theater across the street from it.

He went to get the movie tickets so I made his order for him.

I told this heffa of a waitress his order and told her THAT IS IT! Of course with my order.

She felt the need to come back when he returned and asked him if he wanted anything else…..

Okay I let that slide… that wasn’t the part that made me wanna snatch her ugly ass wig!

This next thing I am about to tell you is what made me want to go all Love and Hip hop on that ass! 

The Ignorant World We Live IN!

How does a movie determine if I’m white or black??

If I curse

Why I dont smoke

Or drink

Get loud

Be ratchet

Act like other black people

Does that make me white? 

This goes back to when I was in a discussion and because I never watched one of Eddie Murphy’s movies I was questioned….

The movie was Coming to America

A movie created before I was born… 1988!! I’m a 90s baby! 

I was asked, “Are you black?” “Do you curse?” 

I laughed because it was a family member of my bf’s but when I thought about it,

this actually pissed me off!!!

My bf and I had a strong disagreement about it that night.

The type of movie I watch doesn’t have to do with race.

White people watch black movies…does that make them black?

NO.

People always say ignorant things…. especially black people!!!

You Right There! STOP Slackin’ Off!

U ever work with somebody that makes u wanna quit?

I have a few times!!! Let me tell ya

*Disclaimer* As you can see, I am FED UP with my co-workers, this is why I am venting about them in a few separate posts because they are different topics and deserve to stay separated! 

So as seen in my previous post, you know my job title, but let me give you the hours more clearly…

7Am to 3pm

3pm to 11pm

11pm to 7Am

Okay soooo…. 

I have this one co-worker on my 3p-11p shift whom was used to the overnight shift and couldn’t adjust to the busy 3p to 11p shift. Her first week she was not doing her job properly. For example, we are entitled to open client doors as requested each day and she didn’t want to open doors. Each worker usually takes turns doing so, but this breed just didn’t want to do it. 

Aye What’s Good!?

I have NEVER been apart of the ghetto crowd, but I have observed them and I can just smh (shake my head)….

I was raised in a different environment from those of NY kinship…

Fellow readers if you visit NYC, you will understand what I mean….

The cursing, the ignorant thinking, way people talk and walk, etc…

Have I cursed in my lifetime? Sure. 

Is it every sentence or after every word? NO! 

Not my style. 

When I tried cursing heavily in my teenage years, it was to fit in and I had to check myself like SIS noooooo that is not you. 

Immediately stopped cursing. 

It is a NY thing, I’ll say. 

When I went to Iowa, I became better in my vocabulary, learning what to say and when….do you know how many people in Iowa actually thought I was from Iowa?!! I tell you I am different! 

But the slang of NY never left me!! Huuurrddddd? (hehe used 1) 

Okay Sooooooo let me break down some experiences to y’all that’ll show why NY is ghetto and IF you work for the right company, you’ll definitely see the ratchet, ghetto black people all in one room or in that business period.