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Netflix Series: Dear White People 

Before I begin, you may not remember the movie, but I did my intake on Dear White People the movie and here’s that blog post: “Dear White People” Movie Review

Now evidently there’s a Netflix Series.

I found out about it from Facebook….it was trending like crazy and being that I saw the movie, I tuned into the show…..

ALL I can say is WOW!

It was just as good as the movie but even better and by the end I was ready for season 2!

The show is as similar to the movie as possible (only I believe it’s better acting)….

Apart of me feels like Sam (one of the main characters on the show) but only when she addresses stereotypes and defends her culture….

She is also half black and white and I am as well.

But I say I’m black, mostly because that’s how I was raised…

I’m sure Sam feels the say otherwise she wouldn’t join the BSU and have a radioshow hosting Dear White People.

I’ll start with a powerful quote from the show:

“Our Skin Color is NOT a Weapon, YOU DON’T have to be afraid of it”

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Revamp this 2017!

Omgosh you don’t even understand how happy I am to see 2017!! 

So what I’m 4 month and some weeks late. 😛

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I’m sure you seen this allll over social media but it was sooooo my life!

I talked a little or a lot about certain resolutions but chose to just let 2017 go with the flow.

I am aiming for better than last yr.

2016 flew by but also took me thru all hell!!

I am proud of who I’ve because I found the growth within me.

27 is reaching upon me shortly and I can only hope I get better with age!

But seriously, I need a redo!

2017 started with such a headache, all I wanted to do was press the rewind button Continue reading

I Did Not Consent!!!

***This post was inspired by a show called The Quad on BET. Specifically Episode 8. As well as my bf stating that a woman shouldn’t dress in short skirts and dresses to escape rape….***

Why is it that someone who NEVER experienced RAPE always has something to say???!

It’s one thing to be empathetic, definitely sympathetic!

But to open your mouth and say something so absurd that makes you look disgusting!

If you have not experienced RAPE then you should be careful what you say!

You’re not even expressing hurt or pain about the situation but is yet DEFENDING the situation over a piece of fuckin’ clothing?!

Men in 2017 really got their heads screwed up!!!

The older men, really got stubborn ways of looking at life….well SOME.

RAPE IS:

“unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth of another person, with or without force, by a sex organ, other body part, or foreign object, WITHOUT the consent of the victim.” – via Dictionary.com 

RAPE IS NOT:

Unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration BASED ON THE TYPE OF CLOTHING one wears without the consent of the said victim…. Continue reading

Oh No! I’m Not Listening to You!

Why is it when you single you feel the need to chime in what you think is the best advice?

But is it the BEST?

Or the best for you?

Especially when a best friend is committed to giving you the worst advice only because they may hate your bf

or they are jealous of the life you lead

or jealous of the life your bf is providing for you…..

Some best friends are emotionally invested…

and too much to the point where they may think they are your boyfriend or girlfriend unintended.

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Ooooohhh but their actions say it is so. Continue reading

Ooouuuuu Sex Toys!!

Cover your eyes youngins, this post is not for you.

Matter fact, just skip over this post….

I have a PG-13 post coming after this one (stay tuned :))

Sooooo my friends, you know I hold no bars, lay it all on the table

I am Shady and blunt….

My blog is my sanctuary to be ME.

Now! SEX TOYS!!!

Your eyes are reading right.

I am talking about blow up dolls, vagina insert toy for men, dildos, vibrators, etc.

Kinky stuff huh?

Okkk sooooo here is the tea!

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So tell me, my adults….what is wrong with a woman having a sex toy?

Men use their hands alllll the time and some even have blow up dolls.

Women can’t satisfy themselves just cause? It always gotta be about the man?

What is life!! Continue reading

I Wish I Were A Kid Again!

Ever sing the Toys “R” Us jingle when it came on TV?

“I don’t wanna grow up, I’m a Toys “R” Us kid”

WELL I USED TO SING IT ALLLLL THE TIME!! 

I used to be that kid singing it as if I really could be a kid.

But now I am 26 and all I keep wanting to do is:

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At life’s toughest choices. Being an adult is soooo hard! You have to take on many responsibilities such as paying your own bills and having a real job.

Then if you can’t find a job, it is even HARDER to find one.

Life’s cycle is ridiculous.  Continue reading

Oooh I Like It When You Touch Me There!

Ahh this touchy subject….literally…

The time you lost your virginity. When everything was confusing.

The feeling was amazing….

The feeling was painful….

When girls spiel “I love you” for no damn reason…

When guys can’t handle her spiel…

The awkwardness and wondering when it will stop being awkward….

When a girl runs and shares wit her homegirls all the details…

When a boy fronts and tells his boys half the truth about it…

That’s right ladies and gents this post is all about SEX!

Queue song!

 

Okay no seriously….I remember my first time. It was fun when I was in the moment, but looking back at it I wish I waited a little longer. Don’t you hate that? When you almost regret something because your mind wasn’t mature enough to make the right decision….

Yeah sooo sadly I grew up in a home where the birds and the bees was not discussed. My dad passed away when I was 3, so all I had was my mom. She has been in and out of relationships trying to figure out her own life that she couldn’t even teach me or my brother the ropes of sex. My brother might have learned from friends or my uncle(s), or maybe even figured it out on his own. I on the other hand had to ride solo….

I was unfortunately 14 years old when I lost my virginity. Yikes. Yeah I know. Silly me. But that is the type of freedom I had.  Continue reading

Pokemon No!

I am laying it on the table ladies and gents….

I am Sick of Pokemon Go. It isn’t the same as the cartridges for GameBoy. Who thought so? Raise a Hand.

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I used to play the game and have the same mantra as on the left. That part of the game always had me scared one was going to pop up. The picture on the right is everyone in 2016. My cousin was driving us around the city one day and she gets exactly like that.

To me it is just another distraction for the world. 

Forget about Trump attempting to become president because you have Pokemon Go.  Continue reading

Who Raised You!!!

So remember that recent post about men being messy?

Hmm well how do I put this one?

From the end of March to the beginning of July, I had crashed with a friend.

She was…

nasty? ghetto? disgusting?

Maybe all 3…Let Me Explain.

I advise you read this whole story, because the disgusting part is shocking.

You know how the more you live with someone, you see how they really live?

Well I never expected what I saw from her. In the 3 months I unintentionally stayed with her because times was hard…in the last month this is what I experienced…

She was picky about the dumbest things like for example, I threw away a ketchup bottle that was EMPTY!!!!! And she was the last one to use it!

This story is so real, I have to show you what I mean. It looked like this:

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NOT even joking. She made a stupid speech about if something was meaningful to me, how would I like it if she threw it away without at least  asking me. WTF!! This bottle deserved to be in the garbage!! There is nothing to save! You want to save a drop of ketchup?? AND SHE HAD ANOTHER FULL BOTTLE IN THE KITCHEN!! She acted like she was dead poor. You have a job, you can afford a new bottle.. .SMH Continue reading

Clean Up Your Mess!

Lately, I have been having the same discussions with 2 different people and get the same feedback.

No offense boys….

No offense men….

But why you gotta be so messy?!!

Now I must say my current bf makes his messes and …

IT IS STARTING TO DRIVE ME CRAZY!!

My best friend is dealing with the same issue, but her bf is a little more messier.

But my boyfriend and I just got an apartment together….

Ladies and gentlemen…

It’s only been a month and I already see the man slob.

SMH!

I get that sometimes you are a busy person and just want to throw clothes here and there but….when you have that day off, don’t you think you should pick it up?

YES YOU!

Him too, I guess 😀

Pure example…(my I use ellipses a lot..oops! Moving on..) After doing a butt-load of house cleaning 2 weeks ago; organizing the things we have in our 2 bedroom apartment with no furniture but at least it isn’t all cluttered in the living room with the dog….we accumulate laundry. His load higher than mine because he works every day and I am home at the moment.

Granted, we didn’t have a laundry bag because the bags were at the laundromat for drop off…yeah he hates washing clothes and swooped me into drop offs too…but when the bag came and it appeared empty, you would have thought he would put the dirty clothes in the laundry bag! Especially if he makes a new mess every day!

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He didn’t….that’s right ladies, shake your head because I am shaking it too.

I needed a break! I broke my back (not literally) cleaning the whole apartment and he can’t do the least thing. Just like when we got the clothes back, you would think he would organize and put them away…nope and they are still not put away because I take me time every day and he goes to work every day!

Then just yesterday he hooked the bathroom up with a softer seat, shower curtain and rugs and you would think he would throw away the plastics it came in…the garbage is right there!

NOPE!

Do I have to blow up for him to get the point?!!

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Maybe….but I’ll talk to him about it instead. It’s just ugghhh!

I don’t mind being a housewife even though I don’t have a ring yet, but boyfriend needs to clean after himself cause he is not too busy to stay clean….

If you can shower, you can NOT be messy!

Good thing it is only 2 things so far, but geez…..I will train my son whenever I have him to be clean, not messy.

Oops did I say 2? Yeah I meant 3….I looked up as I thought about if this was enough and saw a pile of games on the floor (Oh, I am sitting on an airbed right now).

He scattered ps4 and Wii games all over to find one ps4 game…expecting me to clean it up….right?  RIGHT? Well I am NOT because it is his mess. SMH! #RantOver

Come on boys and men, tell me why you guys feel the need to be messy and expect women to clean up after you? 

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