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Netflix Series: Dear White People 

Before I begin, you may not remember the movie, but I did my intake on Dear White People the movie and here’s that blog post: “Dear White People” Movie Review

Now evidently there’s a Netflix Series.

I found out about it from Facebook….it was trending like crazy and being that I saw the movie, I tuned into the show…..

ALL I can say is WOW!

It was just as good as the movie but even better and by the end I was ready for season 2!

The show is as similar to the movie as possible (only I believe it’s better acting)….

Apart of me feels like Sam (one of the main characters on the show) but only when she addresses stereotypes and defends her culture….

She is also half black and white and I am as well.

But I say I’m black, mostly because that’s how I was raised…

I’m sure Sam feels the say otherwise she wouldn’t join the BSU and have a radioshow hosting Dear White People.

I’ll start with a powerful quote from the show:

“Our Skin Color is NOT a Weapon, YOU DON’T have to be afraid of it”

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I Did Not Consent!!!

***This post was inspired by a show called The Quad on BET. Specifically Episode 8. As well as my bf stating that a woman shouldn’t dress in short skirts and dresses to escape rape….***

Why is it that someone who NEVER experienced RAPE always has something to say???!

It’s one thing to be empathetic, definitely sympathetic!

But to open your mouth and say something so absurd that makes you look disgusting!

If you have not experienced RAPE then you should be careful what you say!

You’re not even expressing hurt or pain about the situation but is yet DEFENDING the situation over a piece of fuckin’ clothing?!

Men in 2017 really got their heads screwed up!!!

The older men, really got stubborn ways of looking at life….well SOME.

RAPE IS:

“unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth of another person, with or without force, by a sex organ, other body part, or foreign object, WITHOUT the consent of the victim.” – via Dictionary.com 

RAPE IS NOT:

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Oh No! I’m Not Listening to You!

Why is it when you single you feel the need to chime in what you think is the best advice?

But is it the BEST?

Or the best for you?

Especially when a best friend is committed to giving you the worst advice only because they may hate your bf

or they are jealous of the life you lead

or jealous of the life your bf is providing for you…..

Some best friends are emotionally invested…

and too much to the point where they may think they are your boyfriend or girlfriend unintended.

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I Wish I Were A Kid Again!

Ever sing the Toys “R” Us jingle when it came on TV?

“I don’t wanna grow up, I’m a Toys “R” Us kid”

WELL I USED TO SING IT ALLLLL THE TIME!! 

I used to be that kid singing it as if I really could be a kid.

But now I am 26 and all I keep wanting to do is:

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At life’s toughest choices. Being an adult is soooo hard! You have to take on many responsibilities such as paying your own bills and having a real job.

Then if you can’t find a job, it is even HARDER to find one.

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How Can You Think in a Generation of Social Media!?

It is hard growing up in a fast advancing generation when you grew up in a world that was slow. I’m talking about the childhood where you went outside and socialized with your so called friends.

I remember when I was in my early years, I was always outside. I learned how to ride a bike, how to roller skate, how to play tag, Red light-green light-one two three, Red Rover, and many more fun games.

As I moved to a new neighborhood by the age of 13, I met new friends. I played the same games but I also learned to just sit on the stoop and get to know these “friends” a little better.

As girls, we would play double dutch.

As one of the boys, we sit and chill on the stoop and talk about nothing.

I was a tomboy. I never really hung out with girls.

I dressed like one of course (a girl that is), but just didn’t really like hanging with girls.

Girls are the shadiest of all.

But anywho….

Yeah I had a cellphone at the age of 13. But I only texted one friend.

When I started High School, I became more in tune with myself. I learned a few things about myself along the way. I learned how to make more friends.

I learned how to separate my school friends from my around my hood friends.

They never clashed.

I had an AOL account. I used AIM, Myspace, and Sconex.

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How Bad is it to be Surrounded by Evil?

When you are a child, no one instills in your brain how evil is among us.

It is kind of in music, whether you listen to it backwards, forward, it still has a hidden message.

Evil is in family. They smile in your face, love you and adore you until they can release you and betray you.

If your family is dysfunctional like mine, that definitely happens.

Family leaves you in the dark, giving you false hope of what family really means.

When you are down, they won’t pick you up.

It is within some friends.

It hides behind their faces…

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Oooh I Like It When You Touch Me There!

Ahh this touchy subject….literally…

The time you lost your virginity. When everything was confusing.

The feeling was amazing….

The feeling was painful….

When girls spiel “I love you” for no damn reason…

When guys can’t handle her spiel…

The awkwardness and wondering when it will stop being awkward….

When a girl runs and shares wit her homegirls all the details…

When a boy fronts and tells his boys half the truth about it…

That’s right ladies and gents this post is all about SEX!

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Okay no seriously….I remember my first time. It was fun when I was in the moment, but looking back at it I wish I waited a little longer. Don’t you hate that? When you almost regret something because your mind wasn’t mature enough to make the right decision….

Yeah sooo sadly I grew up in a home where the birds and the bees was not discussed. My dad passed away when I was 3, so all I had was my mom. She has been in and out of relationships trying to figure out her own life that she couldn’t even teach me or my brother the ropes of sex. My brother might have learned from friends or my uncle(s), or maybe even figured it out on his own. I on the other hand had to ride solo….

I was unfortunately 14 years old when I lost my virginity. Yikes. Yeah I know. Silly me. But that is the type of freedom I had.  Continue reading

You Need To Get It Together!!!

So my lovely ladies and gentleman….

I am back with another scenario of double standards!! One of my favorite posts was a loonnggg time ago when I wrote it and I wrote it so well, I am shocked it came out the way it did.

If you would love a refresh or you are new to my page and don’t have time to scroll to it, I’ll drop it right here! This is one of my favorite posts.

Welcomeeee back to another post about Double Standards!!!

*Drumroll please!*

Okay so you know most of what I write is based on my life but that’s okay because what else would I talk about? 😀

So today’s topic is about: Flirting, Compliments, Workplace and more

I will start with compliments. When a girl compliments a guy, in some cases that’s okay but if she is in a relationship it can cause problems!

When a guy compliments a girl, it is supposed to be totally okay….relationship or not right? Cause that is how I see it.

When a girl receives a compliment, she feels either 2 ways; One… happy but not enough to be like babe it’s over and Two she may not take the compliment! It might disgust her. If she tells her bf if she has one, he blows it out of proportion…

When a guy receives a compliment, his ego is through the roof. He even wants to share the news with his gf sometimes and what?? Expects her not to be jealous?

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Clean Up Your Mess!

Lately, I have been having the same discussions with 2 different people and get the same feedback.

No offense boys….

No offense men….

But why you gotta be so messy?!!

Now I must say my current bf makes his messes and …

IT IS STARTING TO DRIVE ME CRAZY!!

My best friend is dealing with the same issue, but her bf is a little more messier.

But my boyfriend and I just got an apartment together….

Ladies and gentlemen…

It’s only been a month and I already see the man slob.

SMH!

I get that sometimes you are a busy person and just want to throw clothes here and there but….when you have that day off, don’t you think you should pick it up?

YES YOU!

Him too, I guess 😀

Pure example…(my I use ellipses a lot..oops! Moving on..) After doing a butt-load of house cleaning 2 weeks ago; organizing the things we have in our 2 bedroom apartment with no furniture but at least it isn’t all cluttered in the living room with the dog….we accumulate laundry. His load higher than mine because he works every day and I am home at the moment.

Granted, we didn’t have a laundry bag because the bags were at the laundromat for drop off…yeah he hates washing clothes and swooped me into drop offs too…but when the bag came and it appeared empty, you would have thought he would put the dirty clothes in the laundry bag! Especially if he makes a new mess every day!

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He didn’t….that’s right ladies, shake your head because I am shaking it too.

I needed a break! I broke my back (not literally) cleaning the whole apartment and he can’t do the least thing. Just like when we got the clothes back, you would think he would organize and put them away…nope and they are still not put away because I take me time every day and he goes to work every day!

Then just yesterday he hooked the bathroom up with a softer seat, shower curtain and rugs and you would think he would throw away the plastics it came in…the garbage is right there!

NOPE!

Do I have to blow up for him to get the point?!!

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Maybe….but I’ll talk to him about it instead. It’s just ugghhh!

I don’t mind being a housewife even though I don’t have a ring yet, but boyfriend needs to clean after himself cause he is not too busy to stay clean….

If you can shower, you can NOT be messy!

Good thing it is only 2 things so far, but geez…..I will train my son whenever I have him to be clean, not messy.

Oops did I say 2? Yeah I meant 3….I looked up as I thought about if this was enough and saw a pile of games on the floor (Oh, I am sitting on an airbed right now).

He scattered ps4 and Wii games all over to find one ps4 game…expecting me to clean it up….right?  RIGHT? Well I am NOT because it is his mess. SMH! #RantOver

Come on boys and men, tell me why you guys feel the need to be messy and expect women to clean up after you? 

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When Are You Going to Have MY Back?!!

I never have nobody back, they say.

But half the people that complain never have mine.

I defend other people’s honors, values, when expected..

Who does it for me?

I’m too nice to people.

I’m quiet because I always get the short end of the stick.

I’m never benefited in return yet I always seem to be the guilty one.

Most best friends are always like call me if you need me but when I do, they half ass ignore me!

When they call, I’m all ears.

But I don’t have no one’s back, they say.

I make people laugh, I stop them from crying….

But who is doing the same for me?

Who is making me laugh, stopping my tears?
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