Getting Tired of Those Boring Greetings? Me too!

You have met someone on the street. You possibly bumped into them on the way to the store. Once, you make eye contact, you say “Hello” or “Hi.” Some follow ups are the standard “what’s your name?” “can I get your number” and so on.

These are the usual greetings that people send out to make a new friend, find a new relationship, etc. Aside from those, there are the cat callings that make women turn away quickly.

How does the first impression get you where you want to be with someone? You change the style of the greeting! It’s like a job interview. Except, there’s less selling yourself. You have the option to what you say based on how you feel towards that person. Sometimes the person you thought was one way, ends up another.

Be fun and less boring! Be unique without trying too hard.

Instead of the usual, don’t use attraction. That’s old. Say something about their interests. But be sure to ask “How does this sound when I read it out loud?” It you wouldn’t say it, don’t write it.

In-person greetings are typically easier. But what about the non-verbal way? That’s right! It’s 2015, you’ve guessed it….the World Wide Web aka the Internet aka Online aka Social Media. My how has the word changed quite frequently.

When you are introducing yourself, there’s nothing particularly wrong with “Hi” as it is known nationally and internationally. The problem is what do you say after that.

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Secret Admirers: When do they become Stalkers?

Did anyone have a Valentine’s Day admirer? Someone you can guess for sure it is them? Did they leave gifts at your job or home? Was it cute/sweet or weird/creepy?

Does it occur every year? What changes?

Aside from V-Day, Do you have one everyday? Or do you do all the hard work?

All these questions are valid for this post! Lol 😀

If you’re anything like me, you’ve had secret admirers in school. Especially elementary school. Those valentine’s day cards always mean something when someone writes a little bit more than the standard greeting. That’s how you know who your secret admirer is. But what happens when it’s not exactly that way?

As you get older, the harder it is to pin point who is sending you flowers on Valentine’s Day, your Birthday, Christmas, Etc. At a college or a university there are so many options that it could be anyone. Unless it’s the girl or guy you had your eye on in class.

Secret Admirers used to be romanticized and a good thing. If a man had one, he would send flowers with a card that had sweet nothings on it. Or he would find what she valued the most and send it. These days, it can be a little weird. Love has gone from in person to online.

In today’s society, it is type stalker-ish! If your number is public like your Facebook profile, anyone can text you.

Or that one guy you met on a dating site now has your number and he turns out not to be so romantic, but you thought he was your secret admirer.

That girl you claimed wasn’t crazy, she actually is! And she follows your every move aside from Instagram. Yikes!

I prefer 90s way of showing affection, compared to 00s. I miss the hand written notes to that someone you found attractive PERSONALITY wise and not sexually. But things have since then changed.


Everyone Facebook messages and uses dating sites to meet people and talk to those they have interest in. Some people hide behind social media and refuse to be brave and show that one guy or girl they are into them. Most people wait until it’s too late.

What is the limit for being a Stalker after getting too close to the person you secretly admirer?


There are many ways to get creative to send your secret admirer gifts. There are e-cards, pen and paper, GIFS, phone calls, text messages, emails, pictures, hell even SNAPCHAT these days! Continue reading

Renovate Your Valentine’s Day!!

Let’s cut right into it. You dread this day. It’s like any other ordinary day. Right? This day is overrated and very dramatized to the point where if you don’t have a Valentine your friends question your life.

You’re sick of hearing “Who’s your valentine this year?” If you have none.

But that’s okay, I hope you downloaded the new Imaginary Boyfriend app to play pretend for just a day.

Don’t know what I’m talking about? Check out the link! It’s available on all phones and I believe there is an invisible girlfriend one as well.

The messages appear in your inbox as a valid message from someone and look as such:

invisible-bf-appIt looks real doesn’t it? This will keep all your friends and family off your back for a day!

I don’t have the app simply because I don’t need it. Does that mean I have a boyfriend? If you know me, then you know the answer to that. 🙂

The app is quite interesting but aside from impressing the world, what else is there to do?

How many people are going to see 50 shades of Grey this weekend?


Come on where’s the show of hands? 😀

It’s a movie I am on the fence about because I LOVE the books and while I am excited they made it into a movie (I’m going to go see it eventually); I am not excited about the actor & actress chosen to play Anastasia and Christian.

However, Go spend V-Day with your GIRLFRIENDS and at night dedicate it to your boyfriend or husband. As for my singles, nothing wrong with spending time with yourself or go speed dating (if you’re that adventurous).

I specifically titled this “Renovate Your Valentine’s Day” because you should feel good about doing something for yourself for once as well as a new take on the “holiday”. The movies and the boyfriend app are typical things to do during this special event, but don’t forget to love yourself first! 

The chocolate, flowers, dinner thing is sooooo old! Leave it in the past! Do something different. Hint at something new ladies. Whether it’s the favorite pair of shoes you have on your wishlist or just going to a craft store to make each other something, do it! Valentine’s Day isn’t all about SPENDING MONEY and if you DO spend money, spend it wisely.

After all, it is ONE day and it should be treated as a regular day because you love people every day even if you don’t say it and even if you don’t necessarily show it everyday. If you buy a gift, make it worth it and not just because it is that one day out of the year where all the commercials, family, friends, co-workers, and sales push you to buy everything to make her happy.

Ladies the men deserve some love too! Cooking is cool as well as expected, but what about his favorite tickets to a show or a game?

Love works both ways.

Love has no boundaries even if your V-Date is your mom, dad, cousin, brother or sister. Just make it fun.

Remember single ladies and single men, there are plenty activities you can do to enjoy V-Day. As I mentioned earlier there’s dating, or you can work (if you grind all the time), play video games, watch Netflix, or spend family time in the house with the ones you love on the daily.


Even bake those sugar cookies everyone loves so much!

What am I doing for Valentine’s Day you ask? Spending it with the people I love the most! My “adopted into” family! 🙂

Turn the typical expected Valentine’s Day into something brand new. Then tell me what you did! Haha

Happy Valentine’s Day!!

Here’s some V-DAY humor:


What Is Going On With These Dating Sites?!!!

So I know I recently mentioned the double standard of the usage for dating sites. This time is different. I have experienced something I think you’ll get a kick out of.

I recently joined OK Cupid to prove a point to a friend. On OK Cupid, the more questions you answer, the better matches you will get. If you hardly answer any, does that mean you won’t find your perfect match? It’s a strange thing to consider, but true nonetheless. I don’t have time to play guessing games with a website! One tip, I neverrrrr give out my real name on the site! It’s not something I do. For what? So you can creep on me? You good!

It’s one of those situations where they don’t see what you mean until you show them what you mean.

So it’s no doubt that I am attractive. NO I’m not conceited, I just learned to appreciate that I am pretty to some degree.

I’m a Girl, I’m a Woman, so yes I have insecurities too! It took A LONG time to tell myself that I am pretty but back to this….. 😛

I came across some negative inbox messages that I just rolled my eyes to and didn’t respond to. To others, I also laughed depending on what was being said.

Now don’t get me wrong, before I shut this down with the negativity of the site, there were some nice guys on there that have messaged me respectfully, I just don’t respond to all of them.

It amazes me how there are all these men on the site and not one thinks to be a gentlemen to get the woman they want in their life or even the casual sex! Sometimes it’s best to be NICE and HONEST at the same time!

When you come off too ignorant or too rude, a woman doesn’t want to respond to that. Men, you must have some male figures in your life that can educate you on the thoughts of women! OR Watch Guy Code every Weds at 11:30PM! 😀

I don’t know about all women, as I can only speak for myself and the female friends I do have, but I know that if you come off as a prude when you greeting a woman, chances are you WILL NOT get what you expect.

To interest you in a few of the ridiculous messages I’ve received, I’ll share the top 4 because everyone else was blocked. These are my most recent posts.

Oh yeah, I only had the site up for ONE week now.

Example #1: This came in last week….

CYMERA_20150206_160849 I read this message like Dude Gross! Do something with yourself! He cannot and will not EVER have me! What was his thought process when he sent this message? I don’t get it. He was blocked instantly, without hesitation. I just can’t!

Example #2: This was just this past Thurs!


This one just made my skin crawl for many reasons. What possessed this dude to assume that I would go with him on a private jet like I know him????? This opener for women is NOT the wave homeboy! I just shook my head at his one because it was very aggravating to see this. I know I look 15, but I’m not and I don’t act like it! Continue reading

Double Standards…Why do we have them?

We’ve all experienced it, at any age. It’s frustrating and annoying.

You find yourself having this battle with just about anyone of the opposite sex.

A man does it with a woman and a woman does it with a man.

No matter what is being said a man feels like he is always right…..maybe a man coined the term double standard too? Since they like living it so much!

Lol seriously though. I can’t even begin to tell you the many times I’ve been in arguments such as

Man: She slept with the homie, she’s a hoe, slut, thot, etc

Me: And guys do it too! They are thots and sluts too.

Man: Chill that’s not the same thing. We don’t get called those names…or we do it different

……I could continue but you get the point. Men don’t get called the names they created for women because they want to be dominant but GUYS LISTEN UP! You are those names too if you proceed with the same actions. #JustSaying

I DON’T understand how most people can be one sided on certain situations. If it hurts you to be called a name, then don’t call anyone else it! Simple!

Double Standards come in many shapes, styles and forms.

In relationships, there should be no need because the two of you become one. However, it cannot be stopped unless society stops it altogether so it continues! It shouldn’t happen at all!

Here’s a tip!


For example, SEX numbers…lalala everyone’s favorite discussion. It is debated on social media, on TV shows like Guy Code, amongst friends, etc

In relationships only you two can decide whether or not you care about how many people the other slept with! It’s your boyfriend/girlfriend. Don’t try to add numbers by 2 or 12 because not every woman lies like that and neither does guys.

Does it really matter? You sleep with them anyway!

Next……Dating sites.

If you create one and you’re single, then cool.

If you create one and you’re working things out with someone or you are considering it, well then how do you think you look? How can he/she take you seriously when you are doing the opposite!

Then he/she gets an online dating site too and you catch a ‘tude about it?


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