I’m cutting right to the point here because I have been pondering this question for a minute now.
Why do parents feel the need to still treat you like they breast feeding you even when you are 21 and up?
Once you hit 25 especially, I say the parental attachment should lessen….
What do I mean? Well let me tell you…
There’s nothing wrong with a quick check up call or conversations with your parents
When they try to give you commands be it in your own house, room or anywhere you pay rent is when the attachment gotta be let go of. Like mom/dad I’m a grown up.
Sadly. Growing up is rough.
But what about when you’re used to speaking to your parents everyday Shade? Is that breast feed attachment?
Let me answer that…No.
The same way you speak to your best friend or significant other daily is the same way you can talk to parents everyday.
That however is NOT me….
Being that I grew up in a crappy single parent household, and the things I encountered overtime living in that type of environment….
I do not want to speak to my mother on the phone everyday.
Even when I went to school in Iowa, I called her when I had free time. She called occasionally.
I have friends in Iowa that call mom on lunch break.
Me? I’ll call before homework.
We have a rough relationship that is still on the moderate scale.
Talking to my mom everyday would be a drastic change.
I’ve always had my independence.
Is that a bad thing?
Crap. I’m going off topic.
Back to it….
I think parents should let their kids try to be an adult before they continue to treat them like kids still.
It’s hard to see your baby grow up but your baby isn’t a baby anymore.
Especially when they over 30.
That “you’ll always be my baby” saying is true but let them expand on their own journey and create a new family. Learn new things and be themselves.
No one can grow if there’s still someone holding on.
Yes, I am kind of going through this situation now, she’s mostly this way because I’m her only daughter and we just “reconnected”….also because my brother tells her his every move and he’s 33
while I text her when I’m out that I’m out and fine so she knows I’m okay. I’m 25, my moves are my moves and I don’t need to check in with you anymore to make sure they good. I make good decisions 100% of the time
Brief rant over.
Yes I know things will all change when I have my own…all the sayings I heard and i know already.
Are you a parent that can’t let go of the umbilical cord when the child is of legal age to own a home? Do you have one? Do you intend to be this type of parent?
Talk to me!
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