When Friendships Sail….

So a comment on my recent post brought me to this topic.

She said she would completely leave a friend cold if she is shady.

But what happens when you decide to give them a second chance?

Do you believe in second chances? I do and that’s with most things in life such as relationships, friendships, job ethics and more.

I’ve told this story a million times over to some friends and they ask “Why?”

So today I will brief it for you.

I have this friend, she’s a lovely person but we argued toooooooo much in our years of friendship. She always complained about something I did or said or my life and how hers is different from mine.

She was insecure, jealous, etc… you name it, that’s it.

But I wasn’t the friend trying to make her the DUFF. I was just being her friend! I never complain about her, yet she complained about me.

Shape and size shouldn’t matter. It never does for me, but for a while it did for her. Yikes.

It was the same thing every year until I drilled in her head that I am human too.

But when she wanted to space out for a couple months, my feelings were:

I need to let this out because maybe my words to my friend isn’t sitting clear.

So I ask my virtual friends and family……

What would you do or say if a friend is always bringing up how much better looking you are than them? Or they say you are more attractive and can get guys easier? (Or girls, w.e. way you live life! :D)

What do you say when you always reject them and explain your insecurities.

We have battle scars of the heart as we have stopped being friends about 8+ times because I had to give her that space!

People remix friends like they remix boyfriends.

We are finally in a good place and I hope it stays that way.

But those formerย Best friendsย don’t usually change their ways.

When they do, I believe they deserve the chance to redeem themselves.

I said it before and I’ll say it again, I cherish my friendships. Even the ones that go way back to elementary school. (Yes I have a good handful that goes that far back)

But sometimes I want to throw in the towel.

Best friends become “exes” when they choose to stop talking to me.

So are they still a best friend when they return?

Some of them are yes, The one from earlier, always has been.

Another scenario is when a miscommunication “over a guy” occurred with this other friend and she didn’t want to talk to me anymore.

We are good now, things kicked off like they did before.

Am I the only one with those type of friendships? Act as if nothing happened over the years and you can just be normal?

While I am on friends, I cannot forget the friends that count vs a friend count.

People spend more time trying to make friends on social media for attention rather than trying to keep the friends that matter. The ones that call every day, text everyday. Even if it’s not every day, its once in a while to let them you know they care.

What’s more important?

Was that a mini rant? I just don’t like when people forget social media was meant to keep in contact easier, not find new ones to get over 1,000 followers and requests to boost egos.

My friendships sailed in all directions. Maybe I need to fix that. ๐Ÿ˜€

Ladies and gentleman don’t forget the friendship recipe!

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24 thoughts on “When Friendships Sail….

  1. Ah, true. Shady people aren’t good to begin with, but as long as it’s not a consistent problem, I am sure the friendship will last. I admit, I love my friends to death, but sometimes they drive me nuts and I just want to stop. But at the same time, sticking it out through the tough times is really rewarding. I have done it and to this day, I am still friends with those who I had met since kindergarten. So really, it depends!

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    • Yep I know what you mean girl. Friendships are hard work. Oh my what a long time! Mine go back as far as 3rd grade. But it definitely does depend on what it is. My friends drive me crazy too

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  2. There are acquaintances and then there are friends. Some times we confuse the two. True friends are rare, and will stay with you through thick and thin. A true friend will be happy for you when you meet that special guy. Your recipe for friendship is spot on!

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  3. When it come to friendships most people have forgotten what that means; thus becoming exes real quick. I hope everything with you & your friend in question goes good. Sometimes the receipt of friendship gets misanalysed that Trust, Kindness, Honesty, & Caring most people take for granted until it too late to fix. in my experiences its always better to fix whatever you & friend face before things get to a point of no return. #GreatPostMs.Shade!

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    • Yup these days people forget what friendship means. Without those you are lost. Most definitely, you have to work for it like anything else! Thanks!


  4. Hello,
    Today, I came across your blog through my best friend Ericka’s blog, congratulaiton for creating this wonderful blog.
    Please feel free to visit my blog, i will appreciate it.
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  5. Karen,
    I am glad as well as sad,
    Thanks for subscription to my blog, I too subscribed to your blog, so, thanks a lot for considering me worth of your friendship, but if you have considered me your true friend, you might have taken time and visit my blog and stopped there to say “hello” to your new friend.
    So, when can i expect your precious presence.????????

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