So a comment on my recent post brought me to this topic.
She said she would completely leave a friend cold if she is shady.
But what happens when you decide to give them a second chance?
Do you believe in second chances? I do and that’s with most things in life such as relationships, friendships, job ethics and more.
I’ve told this story a million times over to some friends and they ask “Why?”
So today I will brief it for you.
I have this friend, she’s a lovely person but we argued toooooooo much in our years of friendship. She always complained about something I did or said or my life and how hers is different from mine.
She was insecure, jealous, etc… you name it, that’s it.
But I wasn’t the friend trying to make her the DUFF. I was just being her friend! I never complain about her, yet she complained about me.
Shape and size shouldn’t matter. It never does for me, but for a while it did for her. Yikes.
It was the same thing every year until I drilled in her head that I am human too.
But when she wanted to space out for a couple months, my feelings were:
I need to let this out because maybe my words to my friend isn’t sitting clear.
So I ask my virtual friends and family……
What would you do or say if a friend is always bringing up how much better looking you are than them? Or they say you are more attractive and can get guys easier? (Or girls, w.e. way you live life! :D)
What do you say when you always reject them and explain your insecurities.
We have battle scars of the heart as we have stopped being friends about 8+ times because I had to give her that space!
People remix friends like they remix boyfriends.
We are finally in a good place and I hope it stays that way.
But those former Best friends don’t usually change their ways.
When they do, I believe they deserve the chance to redeem themselves.
I said it before and I’ll say it again, I cherish my friendships. Even the ones that go way back to elementary school. (Yes I have a good handful that goes that far back)
But sometimes I want to throw in the towel.
Best friends become “exes” when they choose to stop talking to me.
So are they still a best friend when they return?
Some of them are yes, The one from earlier, always has been.
Another scenario is when a miscommunication “over a guy” occurred with this other friend and she didn’t want to talk to me anymore.
We are good now, things kicked off like they did before.
Am I the only one with those type of friendships? Act as if nothing happened over the years and you can just be normal?
While I am on friends, I cannot forget the friends that count vs a friend count.
People spend more time trying to make friends on social media for attention rather than trying to keep the friends that matter. The ones that call every day, text everyday. Even if it’s not every day, its once in a while to let them you know they care.
What’s more important?
Was that a mini rant? I just don’t like when people forget social media was meant to keep in contact easier, not find new ones to get over 1,000 followers and requests to boost egos.
My friendships sailed in all directions. Maybe I need to fix that. 😀
Ladies and gentleman don’t forget the friendship recipe!
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