So my recent post on Boyfriends was more like an introductory post right?
At least that’s what I should call it.
Remember those irreplaceable guys?
Well you wanna know what grinds my gears?
What ticks me off?
What makes my eye twitch? (Okay, maybe not exactly this one but it does make me that mad haha)
When an exes feels the nerves all in his balls or cahonas and decides to downplay you when you shut them down. Like byeeee boy!
Their instant message on FB or Twitter or even IG reminds you of all the bad times you’ve had with them.
You know a relationship was toxic if there was hardly any good.
Especially the exes that only expressed the negatives of a relationship. It’s one of those things that throws me for a loop. How dare you only mention the bad and not the good?
Thus comes the exes that want to slide in your brain and hope you will remember them for one more night of loving.
Kick them to the curb!
I used to receive the messages from a couple exes that played me and ended up getting played themselves. It felt more like harassment so I told my current BF to tell them to leave me alone.
Ever since my hero stepped up, the villains never returned.
When they lose a good thing, they try to always get it back.
I do believe in second chances, but if I feel like it won’t be worth the time or it’s passed your second chance, then you can keep sailing buddy because there are more fish in the sea willing to deal with your hoe-ism of a lifestyle!
Whew! How was that for a didn’t take a breath while typing that? haha
Even if you are successfully happy in your new relationship, they try to break that. You have to be stronger than that and DENY! DENY! DENY!
How about when they see you are a career woman? They really try to push on then.
I haven’t experienced this as I am not in a career yet and nor do I want to!
Don’t you love when you reject these same suckers and they start calling you names?
You went from the sexy, hot GF/EX GF to the whore, slut, tramp, etc all because you don’t want used items in your inventory anymore!
Just give them the attitude that none of them can’t stand!
(Side note: Michelle Tanner has the best GIFs right? LOL)
*To continue* But when they ask to meet up for closure and like most people that need it, you do and it happens! Please try not to slap the life out of him! Just use your words kindly or in a sadistic way that will scare him maybe? Unless you like drama…..
Anyone can go to jail these days, keep that in mind.
If he was a controlling ex, tell him to control someone else.
If he was a cheater, let him go prowl on the women that will do the same thing as him.
If he’s an ex that you see absolutely NO future with, then set him free FOREVER!
If he was the man that looks at other women while with you, girl it’s not worth it.
He should only have eyes for you.
…………………There’s a difference between walking in silence, him sneaking glances….and walking in silence until someone in the relationship says “hey did you see that ass though?”
There are some couples okay with openly looking together, just as long as it’s looking!
Do not take it for granted and go from looking to seeking. If a man’s eyes are constantly watching women, maybe that’s something to discuss.
I used to notice these small things when I was 17 years old in a relationship that was going nowhere. My girls thought I was crazy until me and that asshole broke up! Then my instincts were right.
He needed the attention of others to fulfill his happiness.
SOME men are jerks! SOME women are jerks too.
Point is, let them eat their own dirt as the past is the past.
*Ashes to ashes, dust to dust*
Your Turn: Has any exes been tryna crawl back up into your skin? Have you ever taken an ex back and realized you shouldn’t have? What do you do when they pop back up?
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