I feel like my own hair police most times. Growing up, it’s all people wanted to do!
Just the thought of a person’s hands in another person’s hair for a long period of time is unappealing. Someone’s gruesome, dirty, unsanitized hands to want to touch your fresh, flat ironed, or curly hair! They just ate and touched a glass and immediately want to touch. Ew! At least wash ya hands first.
If you just realized your friends has done that then I’m sorry! A person’s hands that dirty has never been in my hair, I just have a vivid imagination!
It doesn’t matter if your hair is natural, has weave or tracks; long or short the issue stands for everyone.
Touching my hair also came with the “is it real? or is it yours?” question. The answer is YES! It’s not THAT hard to tell the difference, let alone FEEL the difference! Especially coming from women. SMH
The worst is when they don’t ask and they just do. Ummmm….NO! No way. Pump ya brakes. How would you feel if someone did that to you?
Ever met someone that loves touching hair, but hates theirs being touched? Yeah, I haven’t either. But I’m sure they are out there.
This has happened to me ever since I was about 7 years old:
Ugh! Isn’t the point of a question to wait for an answer? It literally “grinds my gears” as Peter from Family Guy would say. Lol!
My hair is a good length, given the fact that I am mixed. I have also been taking care of it since I stopped getting perms in the 6th grade. I did it all by myself. Yay me! Haha.
I usually get asked “How did you get your hair so long?” Only to assess the situation and find the right way to tell my process to whom is asking.
I usually have a hard time taking compliments because I am not a shallow or egotistical person, but I believe sometimes it is a positive initiative when asked about one’s hair. I don’t mind if a great friend of mine wants to touch my hair (as long as their hands are clean!)
Strangers have never asked me and I am very thankful. I hope they never will lol.
The BEST outcome is when you go to a hair salon and get a “hair massage” from the hair dresser. Sure the Dominicans don’t play when they burn our heads with blow dryers (lol) buuuttt sitting in the chair to get that hair washed and that good scratch! It definitely goes a long way. Come out the salon feeling like:
Am I right or am I right? 😉
Then there are those family members that hate on the new do and immediately want to feel the just outta the salon look. Like if you don’t move! Girl/Boy Bye!
Sometimes I wish I had the free will and the over 1,000s of years of strength as a Vampire like the Originals/Vampire Diaries so I can do this the next time my hair is touched unasked and unwanted:
Hair Touching is just one of those things that needs a stop sign and a siren. #JustSaying
Here are two clips that follows up great with “Don’t Touch My Hair!”
The Real – 5 beautiful ladies & my favs that discuss the matter:
Chris Rock and his friends in Good Hair said it best at 0:00-0:16:
What was your experience like? Did it make you angry? Do you embrace it? It happens to more than just “Black” people aka African Americans, I’ve seen it. Share your thoughts as I’d love to hear them!