You have met someone on the street. You possibly bumped into them on the way to the store. Once, you make eye contact, you say “Hello” or “Hi.” Some follow ups are the standard “what’s your name?” “can I get your number” and so on.
These are the usual greetings that people send out to make a new friend, find a new relationship, etc. Aside from those, there are the cat callings that make women turn away quickly.
How does the first impression get you where you want to be with someone? You change the style of the greeting! It’s like a job interview. Except, there’s less selling yourself. You have the option to what you say based on how you feel towards that person. Sometimes the person you thought was one way, ends up another.
Be fun and less boring! Be unique without trying too hard.
Instead of the usual, don’t use attraction. That’s old. Say something about their interests. But be sure to ask “How does this sound when I read it out loud?” It you wouldn’t say it, don’t write it.
In-person greetings are typically easier. But what about the non-verbal way? That’s right! It’s 2015, you’ve guessed it….the World Wide Web aka the Internet aka Online aka Social Media. My how has the word changed quite frequently.
When you are introducing yourself, there’s nothing particularly wrong with “Hi” as it is known nationally and internationally. The problem is what do you say after that.
Take dating for example. I know, we’ve come across this topic so many times and I will be mentioning it for about 3 more times! Haha. It’s the new world we live in.
A woman receives quite more inbox messages than a man might. She sees “Hi how are you?” and “Hi beautiful” alllllll the time. In fact, you and another man has possibly sent the same message at the same time. It’s not who’s the good guy and who’s the bad guy. It’s more of the fact that it’s a lottery game. She picks who she pleases to have a conversation with.
There’s nothing worst than the same message from 10 different people. It’s like the professor repeating a subject in the lecture because a student didn’t get it. Lol No matter how you flip it, it still is the same.
Women LOVE humor!!! Write an interesting message that’ll make her laugh.
Some men who get mad at not getting a response from that beautiful woman they really wanted to talk to, are doing it ALL wrong.
If she didn’t delete your message because it is a message she gets every day or every hour, then she may feel you are a bit desperate.
Some men also come off too strong while others seem thirsty for a little conversation with an attractive woman. Cool down peeps!
But wait……love and friends are not just one way! Like I said before.
As women, we can provide the same thing. The confrontational woman will be more interested in different ways to greet a man than the non confrontational woman. Sometimes, it’s just nice to say hi.
The goal is to be humorous and/or point out a trait that you read about him/her or just see in him/her. 🙂
Also profile pictures and sending pictures matter. If this was in person, what will the odds be that that one particular girl stops and gives you attention?
Ladies, presentation is everything for us as well. We must look how we intend in order to not give off the wrong idea. Sex sells but if that’s not what you really want at the moment, don’t sell it!
In my opinion, I’ve seen it all and heard it all…especially in NYC. I ignore those who cat call and if I want to be nice I’ll respond to a “Hello beautiful, hope you are enjoying your day” when passing in the street. Because these days, people get crazy and can potentially kill you for not responding! #JustSaying. Whoops! Hope I don’t scare anyone away! Safety first.
Online, I weave out the good messages and delete the ones I don’t care for.
Trust thy instinct and it will lead you far.
For my friends who asked why women don’t respond, I hope this helps! Be you, but use your words (and grammar) wisely!
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